Celebrating Bisexuality and Gender Diversity
Bisexuals living fabulous lives full of happiness and love really are a thing. Married, partnered or single, bisexuals can have happy rewarding relationships with their husbands, wives, partners ,family and friends . Being bisexual is something to celebrate yet the message many bisexuals hear from society each and every day is something other than love. I hope as people learn more about what it means to be bisexual that attitudes will change and it will become easier for bisexuals to live their lives as the person they were created to be.
Helping people better understand bisexuality and variations in gender identity has been a passion of mine since I taught my first college human relations and sexuality discussion group back in 1976. My lifetime interest in variations in sexual orientation and how bisexuality can affect relationships with those we love has motivated me to share what I have learned to help make this a kinder, gentler world for all who follow.
History of Livingfabulous.org
When I came of age in the late sixties I embraced and celebrated with joy my bisexuality and my androgynous gender identity but unfortunately society wasn’t ready for me, there was no path I could see to live my life with any kind of acceptance or love so like many in my generation I headed deep into the closet and for 25 years lived life as the heterosexual male I was told was my only choice.
On March 5th of 2007 I decided to start living my life as the bigender bisexual I was born as and this wonderful journey began. The content of livingfabulous.org started out as a private journal to share with a few friends the story of my second journey out of the closet as a bisexual. I did this to start a conversation, I wanted people who knew me to learn more about bisexuals and bisexuality as well as about what it meant to be bigender. I felt that by sharing my story perhaps my friends would better understand what it means to live with variations in sexual orientation and gender identity and with that understanding would come acceptance.
As people started to hear my story they encouraged me to share it more widely to help others like me who would follow. I experimented with sharing on Facebook but the way Facebook pushes out content meant even my friends and family who didn’t want to hear about bisexuality had it in their news feed. Instead of becoming the bisexual “One time in band camp” person on Facebook I created livingfabulous.org . This simple change means that people mindfully come here to learn more about what its like to be bisexual or bigender. I have been deeply moved by the number of people who have written me with kind comments over the years as a result of hearing my stories and reading my reflections. Some old friends have become better friends and I have met new wonderful friends as well.
The grammatically correct name for our site would be “Living Fabulously” but the site got its name from the fact that the use of the word “fabulous” by men when I grew up was long regarded as a “sign” that perhaps we were not straight and was avoided lest we be written up by the “real men don’t say fabulous police” So for me living “fabulous” makes a symbolic point of the opening the closet door and not caring what people think when I use the word “fabulous.”. Proving to the world that real men do use the word fabulous especially this bigender bisexual one.
On this journey I have learned a lot, especially about mixed-orientation marriages. In my own marriage I learned I could remain happily married to my wife, soulmate and best friend AND be bisexual, who knew? One sure could not tell that was as option from most of the other sites out there. And it sure wasn’t an option the first time I came out in the 1970s.
One person at a time, the world is getting better for bisexuals and for mixed-orientation couples. People are afraid of what they do not understand when they pull up a chair and chat a spell they learn bisexuals are normal everyday people.
I will be forever grateful for the support, acceptance and words of encouragement from my wife, friends and family.
Each day is better than the last, life is amazing beyond my wildest dreams, and I get to celebrate each day as the real me, bigender and bisexual and living fabulous. Thank you for stopping by.
I have decided to wind down my written outreach here and instead focus on one-on-one conversations and small group discussions. For now I will keep a featured posts section here at livingfabulous.org in the hope something here will continue to help others.
Selections From My Journal - Miscellaneous informal personal posts, comments and reflections.