In my study of human relations and sexuality I have learned that there is incredible diversity in the ways people relate with each other. An element of human relations and sexuality we do not hear about very often is autosexuality . To be autosexual is to be sexually attracted to oneself. The degree of autosexuality will probably impact many of the other dimension of our sexuality, gender and relationships. Like many aspects of sexuality, gender and relationships ones degree of autosexuality often falls on a continuum and is not necessarily either you are are you are not autosexual. Our relationships , sexuality and gender fall on multiple continuums. In addition autosexuality may be fluid through ones lifetime. As the famous song says “If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you are with.” Sometimes that “one” might be oneself.
Autosexual Sexual Pleasure
While many people enjoy masturbation autosexuals take their solo pleasure to a different level than just something done for a quick release. Masturbation is a common element in an autosexuals sexual pleasure. People who are autosexual may find they enjoy masturbating to themselves in a mirror or making their own home movies. Autosexuals may prefer to be in the moment enjoying themselves as opposed to watching others in porn. Different people will celebrate their autosexuality in different ways.
On the masturbation site Bateworld you may hear autosexuality refered to as solosexual. While some autosexuals may truly like masturbation and sex with themselves over all other sexual expression usually if will fall on a continuum . The degree of satisfaction may well depend upon the quality of other relationships. With the increase in STD’s, COVID and the challenges of finding sexual partners many choose to nurture sexual pleasure with themselves.
Autosexuality in Mixed Orientation Marriages and Relationships
Mixed-orientation marriages and relationships by definition include some sort of attraction to genders other than one’s spouse. When the dynamics of the relationship include a decision for monogamy my observation is that some nuture their autosexuality. It is important to note that there is nothing wrong with a degree of autosexuality. We are all unique human beings with varying needs from others. One common issue is the straight spouses feeling left out when masturbation seems to take preference over sexuality with their spouse. An understanding of autosexuality can help in understanding what is going on.
Good communication can put self pleasure as an outlet in is proper place so that the straight spouse also feels their relationship is nurtured and important.